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TITANIC MEN, WHERE ARE THEY Part 5 – conclusion

We need to move from FEMINIZATION to BIBLICAL RESTORATION OF GODLY MANHOOD. Men of courage, men who will “Act Like Men.” Men who will face the demands, difficulties and trials of life with faithfulness and courage.

In the last post I asked you to think about the “Intention to Protect” that was prevalent back in the day when the Titanic sank.

Unfortunately, I must say to you the “intention to protect” is no longer there with fathers and has gone down with the ship. Things have happened to our daughters that never, ever, ever should have occurred. Fathers were and are missing from the watch. Men, we are opening up every opportunity for our daughters to be brutalized, opening up a system that will break down their world-view, destroy their womanhood and create havoc in the years to come.

Fathers are AWOL! For those that have no idea what that is, it’s a military term for Absent Without Leave. Surprisingly and sadly Christian fathers are for the most part no different from the majority in the world.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

In early times, sons at a young age were out in the fields working with their fathers. They were with men from the very start and doing manly things. They were learning how to act like men. They were hunting, protecting, providing and they learned all about physical labor. They watched how their fathers reacted to things and most important how they responded in demanding and dangerous times. They were being trained to be men. We have lost that today with the exception being the Amish folk. I have a bunch of Amish neighbors and I watch as the young boys are out with their fathers all the time. If the boys are not in school, they are with their fathers. And they all have responsibility placed on them at a very early age. I hired the father to do some work for me and guess what, I hired the entire male segment of the family. Wherever dad was the sons were as well. That is something I truly admire about the Amish. They have kept the importance of training their sons to be men. But, we in our social debacle have lost this entirely.

“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

How can we ever re-integrate the training of young men by their fathers or other men? We know and we see the problem but the solution will likely take enormous effort and creativity. One thing is for sure though, nothing is too great for our God.

We as strong Christian men need to be about training our sons and other young boys to be men. We need to take back our land and restore training to young males. Boys need to be with men! Sons need to be with fathers! Fathers need to remove the distractions and the things that get in the way and be true fathers. Fathers need to disciple their children. I started typing disciplining by mistake but that needs to happen too. I never looked at how close those two words are. I think there is a message there.

If we want a manly generation, we need to figure out how to have our sons walking beside their fathers and having them teach what it means to be a man. We need fathers walking them through life. The entire chapter 6 of Deuteronomy commands that we do this. Please read it all yourselves and meditate upon it. “And when thy son asketh thee in time to come, saying, What mean the testimonies, and the statutes, and the judgments, which the Lord our God hath commanded you? Then thou shalt say unto thy son, We were Pharaoh’s bondmen in Egypt; and the Lord brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand:And the Lord shewed signs and wonders, great and sore, upon Egypt, upon Pharaoh, and upon all his household, before our eyes:And he brought us out from thence, that he might bring us in, to give us the land which he sware unto our fathers.And the Lord commanded us to do all these statutes, to fear the Lord our God, for our good always, that he might preserve us alive, as it is at this day.And it shall be our righteousness, if we observe to do all these commandments before the Lord our God, as he hath commanded us.” (Deuteronomy 6: 20-25)

In John Eldredge’s book, Wild at Heart, he wrote, “A man must have a battle to fight, a great mission to his life that involves and yet transcends even home and family. He must have a cause to which he is devoted even unto death, for this is written into the fabric of his being. That is why God created you–to be his intimate ally, to join him in the Great Battle.”

We need to move from FEMINIZATION to BIBLICAL RESTORATION OF GODLY MANHOOD. Men of courage, men who will “Act Like Men.” Men who will face the demands, difficulties and trials of life with faithfulness and courage.

The future of the “family” and the future of the “church” and the future of “Christian civilization” depends on the critical role of the “father.” Fathers passing the faith on to their sons.

This problem needs to be front and center!

Do our sons know how to teach the word of God?

Do they know how to apply it?

Do they know how to protect their homes?

Do they know how to be grave and sober?

Do they understand how serious the battle is?

We are losing our children; they are walking away from the faith. The faith is dissolving before our eyes and we are losing fatherhood.

Do they understand how high the stakes are?

Do they understand there will be people going to hell because fathers neglected to teach the word of God to their children?

God is sovereign and Dad you are the one responsible! Get sober! Get brave, wake up! The battle is raging right now. You can lose your sons and daughters. Both their physical lives and their souls are at risk.

“Be strong and quit yourselves like men, O ye Philistines, that ye be not servants unto the Hebrews, as they have been to you: quit yourselves like men, and fight.” (1 Samuel 4:9)

Men, you must get engaged. You must involve yourselves in the battle. You must be a sober man. Equip yourselves with the word of God in order to be the man that God wants you to be.

Our God has shown us through his word what it means to be a man and what manhood is all about. “For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.” 1 Timothy 2:5

Can you imagine a world again where men put women and children first? Can you imagine a world of valiant and courageous men? Men that say to their wives and children, “I will never leave you or forsake you?”

Imagine a world like that. You know that the mightiest of men are men who admit their weakness because of sin and then cast themselves to the mercy of Christ. It’s the men that say, “God save me because I am a sinner, I trust in thee Lord and I will take a stand and raise my family in the word of God.”

Men, some of you need to repent, confess, be accountable and take a stand. “Quit Ye Like Men.”

We have never needed you more than we need you now. We have never needed fathers as we need them now.

In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit I pray that men would wake up and, “Quit Ye Like Men.” That men would understand what it means to,

Act Like Men, Amen.

God bless you all,

The Tubthumper

TITANIC MEN, WHERE ARE THEY? Part 1

TITANIC MEN, WHERE ARE THEY?

“Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.” 1 Corinthians 16:13

Are you a man or a mowess? So said the cowardly lion in the Wizard of Oz.

All joking aside, back in January of 2013 I did a workshop for the men in my church where I showed a movie titled, Act Like Men that was made by Biblical Worldview Media. In the movie they documented everything I already knew along with most men. We are in trouble. We are seeing a decimation of manliness. It was clear as a bell then how things have been decimated and a cure needed to be administered and since then nothing has improved in-fact everything has become much, much bleaker.

In this segment I will address the decline of manhood in our nation and world along with the feminism movement and the destruction it has wrought. I will also address the self-inflicted failure of men because we are partly at fault. I will also touch on other destructive forces that are on men today. A lot of women won’t like what I am writing, and a lot of men won’t like it either. I am personally ashamed of where my fellow men (mankind) has fallen. I will not apologize for bringing forth the truth. I am coming from a biblical perspective and so if you have a problem with what you are reading, I suggest you take it up with God and simply click to something more soothing for you. Keep in mind however that God’s plan will never be altered. In the end He will always be in control.

A lot of material I will present here came directly from the movie documentation and other sources which I will site when necessary. This topic will take many posts to cover and I hope you will stay with it for the duration and summary.

Men are struggling and that is no secret. History shows that civilizations fall when manhood breaks down. Years and years of ridicule, political correctness, feminist attacks, gender distinction wars, drug addiction and more have left men confused, passive, lazy and selfish about their identities. Men are under attack and have been for years. The feminist movement has carefully orchestrated the attack for 100 years but most fiercely in the last 40. And sadly, they have been quite successful partly due to men weakening and giving up their God given role. Our civilization and society are in a shambles. fatherlessness, immaturity, divorce and crime is at an all-time high. The destruction of the family as we once knew it is close at hand or already dead.

The warrior has been taken out of men as well. I don’t want to get distracted with this, but you can go to my post called, “Gibbor: The Warrior” for more detail if you wish. This is a quote from Robert Bly, “The disciplined warrior, made irrelevant by mechanized war, disdained and abandoned by the high-tech culture, is fading in American men. The fading of the warrior contributes to the collapse of civilized society. A man who cannot defend his own space cannot defend women and children.” Any men that do not discover the warrior aspect of their being are not real men. They are as Bly calls them, “mother-bound” boys still in need of a sword to cut them away from their mommies. Think about this as you can relate to the masses of sissified males in our current society.

What did the men on the Titanic know about manliness that now has been forgotten? Will our civilization survive this decline of masculinity? What does it really mean to be a man? I plan on exploring these issues and exhorting my fellow men to seek to reclaim our biblical vision for manliness.

Back in 1912 when the R.M.S Titanic hit that iceberg and sank an amazing number of men paid the ultimate price to be sure the women and children were saved. The “Law of the Sea” came from the Bible and is “women and children first.” Is this law of the sea, “women and children first” even relevant today? I think not. How many men would give up their place on a lifeboat today for women and children. Would you? I think most men today would push women out or throw them overboard to get their spot on the lifeboats for themselves. After all, that’s what women wanted is equality. I always say to be careful what you ask for. Sadly, because of the Feminist movement and the attempts to minimize the male role this has come about. And ladies, if we end up going to war again you will be subject to the military draft same as men. You won’t like it, but hey, it’s what you asked for. To an extent, males have allowed all this occur through passiveness, poor performance as leaders and simply just giving up. For that as a man I am truly ashamed. The pattern of Christ regarding leadership for men is to lay down your life if necessary. (I will never leave of forsake you.) There are many destructive forces working on men today. Entertainment, obsessive hobbies, self-interest, pornography, drugs, worldly diversions, lack of commitment, temptation, women’s movement and feminism (Darwin) and I could go on and on. Men yield to temptation and passiveness much too easily. We (men) have let it happen! As men, it is our fault. Men gave up their God given place in the pecking order long ago.

The biblical role of men is to be obedient to God. To know where you are going and to where you will take your family and your sons. Men are to be the protectors and the leaders. And men that are “passive in worship will be men passive in life.” “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

Women have struggles too, this I know. Some of those struggles come from what I am writing about. I want you to know I acknowledge issues women face but this topic is about the men.

Are women the weaker vessel? Yes, they are according to scripture they are. It doesn’t take much brainpower or common sense to understand that. Again, don’t get me wrong. In some aspect’s women are much stronger than men. But in the context of the protectors and the biblical subject at hand women are the weaker vessel. Darwin’s introductions and the feminism movement did much to increase the passiveness and destruction of men. It did begin there but regardless of what crazy things are happening in mainstream society and what is being taught, “God’s teaching and His principles will prevail.” Shame on the males of our land! Men have become incredibly passive and have retreated to try and escape reality. Many are currently strung out on opioids while the women and grand-parents are raising their children. Men, it will be hard to survive this. I do believe however, that women do want men to lead. They want the leaders that God develops. They do not want some barbarian or Neanderthal to drag them around by the hair muttering “my woman” she is mine. If a man conducts himself as outlined in 1 Cor. 16: 13-14 the weaker vessel will follow the courageous lead.

This is no new phenomenon. It is to our (men’s) shame. We are deluged with boys born with no fathers and fathers leaving. The only way to survive this will be through Christian and Godly men that disciple, mentor and train younger men. We need to get back to the basics and do it one on one and one by one. If men don’t care about the “Bride of Jesus Christ” they won’t ever care about the other brides, the women, children or anything else.

WE ARE LOSING OUR CHILDREN. WE ARE LOSING FATHERHOOD. MEN WILL GO TO HELL FOR NOT BEING FATHERS. It is written. “Be a sober man.”

Well, now that I have opened the can of worms let’s get into it. Please come back for the next post as I begin the quest for Titanic Men. There are lots of stories of courageous men on the Titanic. Imagine a world back where women and children came first and there was respect and honor for men.

God bless you all,

The Tubthumper

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In the Footsteps of Your Father?

Follow the markers and don’t get lost along the way…

“Have we not all one father? Hath not one God created us?” (Malachi 2:10a)

For you guys out there, have you thought about what it looks like to become a man. And if you are a father, (defined that you have a son you are responsible for and haven’t just planted a seed and walked away like many) have you thought of the journey your son will make? The journey to manhood is one that every male must take.

It is a sad commentary that in our times (2014) the jungle out there drains the manhood out of many and the survivors are few. We now live in a society where there is very little direction for men. There are no maps for our young men to follow. Sadly there are few committed fathers willing to show the way young men need to travel. Back in the day… fathers spent time with their protégé and taught them the way of the land. They helped their son’s to earn the steps to manhood and to know the day they really become men. Hikers can follow the markers on the Northville-Placid and Appalachian trails to show them each step along the way for miles. The Appalachian Trail is a rugged trip through 14 states and each marker gets you one step closer to the summit. Young men need some markers to show them to the summit of manhood. They need the trail blazed ahead of them by strong men going forth first.

Growing boys and young men need a roadmap and need to see the lay of the land. Even with seeing the lay of the land they will still need to make difficult choices along the way. A good father will provide a clear roadmap but will still allow the freedom of choice. He will allow his sons to fail and experience the knowledge that comes from the school of hard knocks. He will pick them up clean them off and lovingly but firmly set them on the trail again. A father will provide corrective measures appropriately where needed and do what is necessary to help his seed mature and blossom at the right time. “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” (Proverbs 13:24)

Whether young or old, men need to have instruction repeated. Most men need to hear instruction five to seven times before it sets in. Repetition is good for males. Repetition is good because we are woefully forgetful. “If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?” ( Hebrews 12: 7-9)

The world we live in has changed. Oh, if we could only wake up to the world we once knew it would be so comforting. This is not to be. Our world has changed and there is no longer a worldview of fatherhood. Back in the day we had a good picture of our world with strong, loving and caring fathers. Back in the day we had men actually fully integrated into family life. We had fathers for children to go to for some guidance when they needed it. Our world had fathers that would provide protection, guidance and comfort when needed. We had fathers to model what a daddy or a husband looks like. “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.” (Psalm 127: 3-5) If you were unfortunate and were one of the few back then that lost your father for some reason it was more likely one would come forth from your neighborhood. Oh, how we lived in different times.

If you are on the Lake Placid hiking trail and you skip one or two of the markers or check-points along the way you will get lost in the wilderness. The markers cannot be skipped and the check-points are there for security. If you miss on of those you will incur a wound. A son that misses a check-point in the journey to manhood will be lost and will have a wound. “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” ( Ephesians 6:4) If they fall too far off the path they will have a deep wound. As an example… If your father abandons your family you will need to become a man before you are ready. You must fill the shoes of the father that should be there for you. Because you need to fill his shoes you get robbed of your youth. You are put under inappropriate stress and that is a deep, deep wound. The scar will remain forever.

Have you ever noticed all the genealogical information in the Holy Bible? It tells us that so and so begat this son and so and so was the son of this guy and he was the son of that guy and on and on it goes. Father’s and sons obviously have great importance to God. “The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.” (Proverbs 23:24) There is hope!

We have hope to carry us through this troubling time. If you are a man that became lost because you missed a marker or lost the map you can get on the right path. You can find your way back. If you are a young man and you want buck the tide and be a good father there is a way. If you want to be a good male leader there is a way. There is a roadmap that was developed ages and ages ago. It is for all to follow and it has markings every short distance traveled to show you the way. You can see the truth and the forest through the trees. It will show you the way!

There is a Father! The father figure you have missed and are looking for is there. He will show you the way and he will help you to stay on the right road. If we all take a close look we can see God as that great Father we need. When you read the scriptures it becomes clear the Bible portrays the Lord as the Great Father. God created everything and God created you. He was not presented to us in the scriptures as mother. God was positioned for us as the Father. All throughout the Bible He is the Father. Seek the Father… turn to His word, notice the markers and get on the right path. “Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.” (1 John 3:1)

God Bless your day,

The Tubthumper